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When you have someone by your side

When you have that someone special in your life, who stands behind, with and for you no matter how the circumstances are, you become fearless and face any challenge that life throws at you with an ardent display of enthusiasm. That person could be anyone – your parents, spouse, friend, or sometimes God. Hope you enjoy reading it as I did while writing the same.

When you have someone by your side

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How are you raising your kids?

Raising children has become increasingly difficult because of extreme peer pressure, societal compulsions, rampant bullying, and social media influence. Sadly, no school teaches parenting principles and we often naively raise kids who are exposed to myriad complex social situations. And with the busy life, we all live, often we fail to notice the subtle hints they may show, which if not nipped early, often results in teenage depression, indulgence in early age bad habits, and worst of all suicide. These unfortunate incidences are in a constant increase and we see torn families, way too many than we desire.

So, what can we do about it? While there are plethoras of parenting books and material available on the web, I will attempt to distill it into few things we should stop doing and few we should begin for nurturing a healthy relationship with your children. These are ethos I have practiced raising my two kids. If you are a parent who wants to start it right with your children at an early age or someone who has a troubled relationship with your child, hope this article will provide some help.  If followed with sincerity, I can assure you, this will lead to a path towards a healthy relationship with your children.

Things you should stop doing.

Comparing kids, how often after an exam you have asked your children who got the highest or asked the score of a kid who you consider has a rivalry with your kid. How often, when you are angry, you cite examples of how some of his peers are better than him/her. This single most parenting behavior is an absolute deterrent to a child’s growth. Depression, anxiety, animosity, all such words you emboss in your child’s mind unknowingly over a period of time. Stop doing it at once.  If you cannot live without comparing, compare with his own self. Remember, no two kids are the same and they shouldn’t be.

Pushing children to do more, you find your neighbor’s son is learning to fence, you push your child into it. You learn there is a math Olympiad where the majority of the kids are taking part, you bulldoze your kid to participate even when she/he has no interest. Be their coach, be their friend, encourage them, explore with them what excites them, and then chart a plan based on what they desire. Don’t nurture herd mentality. You may think you are doing a boatload of goodness but in reality, all you are doing is putting undue pressure on your child.

Bribing them, “If you get straight A in this trimester, I will buy you a Nintendo Switch”, we all have this habit of bartering with our children. We believe that is the only way we can get things done. While it may sometime give short-time gain, in the long term you are inducing a dangerous behavior into them, the bargaining behavior. Rather teach them the goodness of any job you want them to undertake and how it will benefit them

Asking them to stop doing things that you think you have the license to do, this one is my favorite. We drink Cola but we don’t want our kids to drink any soda. We overwatch TV but have a different charter for them. Children look up to their parents, in the early development days they imitate their parents, you are their role model, so act and do things as you want your children to be.

Following are the things you should start doing

Say more often that you love them, hug them tell them they are special. Express it in words don’t assume they know

Praise them for their hard work and tell them results doesn’t matter as long as they put their sincere efforts

Become their friend, be their friend, make them comfortable enough so that they can talk about their crush, pain, school, and everything that is going on their mind. This will only happen when you stop reacting to every episode. If you coach them on their bad deeds rather than screaming or shouting, you will certainly attain the friend status.

It is okay for them to have an opinion. If you cannot agree, don’t force but respect them

I hope this helps.

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When the other person doesn’t reciprocate

Sometimes in life, we find someone with whom we feel deeply connected. And when over time such fervor doesn’t fade, we conclude to have found our old soul. The world appears beautiful when there is a reciprocation to such ardor. But life doesn’t always turn out to be the way we desire it to be. And often when we don’t get similar enthusiasm, we feel betrayed. Some take it to their heart disposing of happiness, a few assume quietude spending time in melancholy, wasting life on things that they don’t have control over, and only a handful have the courage to move on.

So, I tell you this, don’t assume things.  Maybe the other person is busy picking scattered threads of their life, maybe he/she is going through an emotional turmoil, maybe they are not feeling well, maybe they are having a bad day at work, maybe they want to respond but are constrained to say what they desire.

Give space, give time. Who knows maybe time will work in your favor? If not, then don’t waste time grieving. If your love is divine, why bother worrying about reciprocation rather channelize your energy in doing things that will please your heart. If you still can’t handle it probably it was not meant to be yours, move on with life. If the forbearance is difficult to handle, ask for help. Talking to a professional can help you find the right way.

We need to create a pathway towards gaining mental peace from such difficult hardships. It is never easy to forget, and even worse forgive.  We should focus on nurturing self-belief, enthuse empathy, and put life in a righteous path for soul recovery from such mishaps.

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Nurturing Relationships

In my opinion, the most complicated thing to comprehend is human relationships. And it is rightfully so, for relationship is an amalgamation of diverse attributes like emotions, resilience, aspiration, freedom, and security. The human mind is a rational grouse, worse, it never forgets and files memories, both good and bad, with equal fervor.

The bonding in a relationship never happens in a trice nor does the bitterness erupts with a sudden burst.  It dwells within us over time. So, when a bond between two human beings deteriorates it is never a sudden expression, but a synthesis of overlooked emotions stashed over a period of time. The same is true when individuals’ bonds for a lifetime, for in such cases there exists empathy, respect, and enough space for each person to grow and flourish.

So, I tell you this, if you truly want to nurture a relationship, never ignore the subtle hints thrown at you from time to time. See if you can pick the signal from the noise. If you think you are treated unfairly, speak your mind, express your thoughts, be compassionate, and at times learn to forgive.

Remember, in a relationship the biggest deterrent is silence. And despite the efforts, if things aren’t working seek help. Often seen as a taboo but consulting a professional often does wonder.

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Keeping Humanity Alive- Yout Tube Channel

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Keeping Humanity Alive- Yout Tube Channel

Hey Friends,  please click on the link below to listen to my life-changing experience. Please subscribe to my channel to listen to similar inspirational videos and more.

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Keeping Humanity Alive- Yout Tube Channel

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Half a mile sprint – Yout Tube Channel

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